“Everything is hard before it is easy.” – Goethe

Over a lifetime we will wait for many things – a vacation, a resolution or verdict, the perfect shot, the arrival of a baby, the homecoming of a loved one, a job opening, and sometimes things that are less pleasant. Waiting can bring excitement, uncertainty, fear, and hope. Whether we are waiting with optimism or anxiety, waiting can be difficult.

How can we make waiting easier?

1. Breathe.

When waiting makes us feel overwhelmed or anxious, breathing can relax us. Deep breaths help slow the heart rate, calm the nerves, and lead us to clearer thinking.

2. Prepare.

Get busy preparing yourself – get in shape, get educated, or get organized. Preparation will increase the chance of a successful outcome when the waiting is over.

3. Let go.

Identify what is in your control, and let go of everything else. Things within our control include our attitudes, words, and behaviors. Things out of our control include airline schedules, weather, other people’s opinions, acts of nature, and a whole lot of other stuff. Don’t spend your time and energy on what you cannot control.

4. Live fully.

Don’t waste your time. Keep living your life. Say yes to social invitations, take risks, and try new things.

5. Stay positive.

When we are waiting, we are vulnerable to fear and doubt. The future is full of uncertainty, but it is also full of potential. Being positive is a choice.

6. Be grateful.

When we have our sights set on the future, it’s easy to forget how great things are in the present. Take a moment to count your blessings.

7. Do your best.

The game of life is won one point at a time. Focus on the shot that can be taken in the present moment.

8. Find community.

Surround yourself with encouraging and supportive people. Whether you have a formal or informal support system, your friends and family can help you stay positive and focused during a challenging waiting period.

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